Posts Tagged "relationships"

Agape not Eros

Posted by on Feb 12, 2016

motivationHere we are at that time of year when all the shops are filed with hearts and many single people are cringing under the pressure of St Valentine’s Day so often put upon them because they are single. But just as there may be many lonely hearts dreaming of love there are just as many people who actually like being single. Not everyone needs to live with someone else or be ‘half’ a couple.

Love isn’t about being in couples is it? A loving relationship with someone special who returns our love in the same way is fulfilling and nourishing, but shouldn’t all our relationships be like that anyway?

So many people have written to me over the years about troubles in love. If I do card readings at a festival people come along wanting to be told they will find love soon. Yet all the spiritual teachers advise us that in order to find real love we must first learn to love our self.

‘Eros’ is the name of the love we feel for our partners and ‘agape’ is devotion. It’s the kind of love we call unconditional, or universal, it’s the love we feel for God.

My own thoughts are that as well as learning to love and accept who we are, we must also discover forgiveness to find out what love really is.

Let me remind you what has been said about love by some of the good, the great and the wise:

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
― Mother Teresa

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” Jesus Christ (John 13:34).

“God loved us before he made us; and his love has never diminished and never shall.”
― Julian of Norwich

“Truth sees God, and wisdom contemplates God, and from these two comes a third, a holy and wonderful delight in God, who is love.”
― Julian of Norwich, Revelations of Divine Love

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”
― Mother Teresa

“There is only one happiness in life — to love and to be loved.”
George Sand (1804-1876) French Romantic writer.

“Where there is love there is life.”
Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)

“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”
― Mother Teresa

“My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.”
(Romeo and Juliet, 2.2) William Shakespeare

“When Love speaks, the voice of all the gods
Makes heaven drowsy with the harmony.”
(Love’s Labour’s Lost, 4.3) William Shakespeare

Whether you relate better to Eros or Agape. Have a very loving weekend!
With my love, Chrissie

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Healing when Love really hurts!

Posted by on Feb 4, 2016

AngelInsight_RaphaelHave you ever had a row with your lover, or partner, that has left you feeling weak or sick for days? The kind of argument that echoes in your head so long you don’t know which way to turn?

Very few of us have escaped the pain that a rift within relationships can cause. Of course we may fall out with friends, or family, and experience differences of opinion with work colleagues which can leave us feeling miserable… but the greatest pain and deepest wounds seem to be caused by the bitter arguments and emotional battering we experience within our closest ‘loving’ relationships. Not only from the very serious, such as divorce, but continuing bickering over domestic issues causes problems.

Many lovely people are carrying the scars of a failed or toxic relationship. Sometimes the pain is fresh and raw, but in many cases the rift still hurts after decades. It is so important to be able to heal our emotional wounds before they become too deep.

Evidence shows that the cells within our amazing human body have a memory of their own and will hold the pain in certain areas, particularly the joints or heart and chest area. This weakens us, often to the point of debilitating physical discomfort and chronic ‘dis-ease’.

So how can the angels help us with this human condition?

It could be said that all our guardian angels bring love, compassion, and healing, but when it comes to specific issues it is good to develop a regular communication with one of the great Archangels and learn to attune to the powerful energy carried by these beneficent beings.

Archangel Raphael is known as the great healer. In fact the name means “God has healed” or “the shining one who heals”; rapha in Hebrew means “healer” or ‘doctor”. Raphael helps with all issues of wholeness, healing, vision, and scientific discovery. He also assists with overcoming degeneration, superstition, error and blockages in abundance. Not only does he help in overcoming disease but also healing on a psychological and spiritual level such as with deep emotional wounds caused by personal relationships.

So, if you would like angelic help with this particular issue here are three ways of working with Archangel Raphael for healing your emotional wounds, and also dealing with the overall challenging situation. You can spend as long or as short a time on these exercises as you please. The more you practice them, the greater the effect.

One: Cellular Healing

Call upon the energy of Archangel Raphael, three times. (Three has a significantly powerful mystical property which, when used as a mantra or fiat – a decree or command- magnifies the intention of your prayer or request. It has been used for thousands of years in spiritual rituals.)
Imagine a beautiful green light surrounding you and filling your body with peaceful healing light. Ask the powerful energy of Archangel Raphael to cleanse away any toxic thoughts and memories that are causing you pain. Imagine the green light calming your mind as you breathe it in for a few moments, balancing your energies and repairing your cells. Say this affirmation to your self as often as you like in sets of three: “Every cell in my being works in perfect harmony”.

Two: Forgiveness

Call Archangel Raphael three times and ask that his energy surround you for this exercise. Picture the person, or partner (with whom you have the issue) as happy and well. Now picture in your mind’s eye a whole circle of angels surrounding that person. With Archangel Raphael by your side you enter the circle and stand facing your partner. In this safe and sacred space say to your partner: “I truly forgive you for any pain you have caused me. … And I ask you to forgive me too for any pain I might have also caused you.” Thank Archangel Raphael and the angels of healing for their assistance, knowing that this powerful exercise has already begun to take effect and that it will create the best possible outcome for all concerned.

Three: Compassion

There are three elements to compassion, and these are love, kindness and patience. It is often easier to be loving, kind and patient with someone else but can be very difficult to have these qualities for our self.

Archangel Raphael wants us to heal with compassion, by reminding us how unique, beautiful and loved we really are. Remember that the angels see only the light within us, and the more we treat others and ourselves with tender loving care the brighter we shine. When we have compassion for ourselves, we can also feel the same for even those who hurt us.

Close your eyes for a moment and imagine you can see a tiny light forming behind your eyes. Watch as it gets brighter and brighter reminding yourself that this is your inner Divine light. Give this little light your love and admiration, just as you would any other thing of great beauty and value. Now imagine the other person in this situation, with a beautiful light shining from within. Say in your head (or out loud if no-one is listening): “The Divine light within me acknowledges and loves the Divine light within you”. This way you can have compassion for the Divine light within for you and your partner without actually focusing on any negativity within the situation.

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Kindness in Words, Thoughts and Giving

Posted by on Jan 28, 2014

AngelInsight_Support2Here we are almost at the end of January. Has it been a strange old month for me, a month of paperwork and planning. With the Capricorn new moon in the new year, we were all encouraged to set goals. Now, I’m reliably informed that in its current phase this unusually cooperative mood supports teamwork, negotiation, compromise, and the formation of helpful alliances. We are being encouraged to use our intuition to find and work with the partners who can help us … and who can, at the same time use our help. In the spirit of kindness and cooperation the relationships and benefits we build now could bring dividends to enjoy well into the future.

For any of you interested in the Chinese New Year you will also know that we are racing towards the year of the Wood Horse. A year of taking the reins and making sure we have made the right decisions, as the energy of this year will take us racing the course… so we had better be clear, and work out which direction is the right one for us!

In all of the forward planning it is sometimes easy to get wrapped up in what ‘we’ want. Being focussed and dynamic is great, but with too much pressure the work load (even an over-whelming desire to serve) can take its toll on our family life, and our health.

One of the greatest human challenges – from my experience – is balance. It can be hard to remember that while we are rushing ahead in our desire to achieve we must also remember to be kind. I once knew a lady who put a little sticker on every envelope she ever sent in the post. So I copied it and pinned it to the back of my cloakroom door. It said :

“Practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty” (Anne Herbert) and another inspiring and lovely saying from Taoism: “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” (Lao Tzu)

We sometimes need to be reminded to be kind to those who do not go as fast as we do, kind to those who have different ideas and opinions, and kind to ourselves. We need to nurture our friendships and relationships to others; feed our minds with healthy sustaining and positive thoughts; support our spiritual growth with regular connection with nature and meditative practices; and support our physical body with plenty of rest, good food, and exercise. All this while, in many cases, looking after a home and family and earning a living!


A great way to be kind to yourself, and to fulfil just about all the above, is to take a holiday or retreat. I’d like to invite you to combine a holiday and retreat, by joining me in the gorgeous unspoilt West Crete.

Group retreats are always different. Dynamics can change depending on the character and personality of each of the participants, but whether peaceful, challenging, demure or hilarious, each retreat is always another step towards our spiritual goal… and always, without exception, nourishment for the soul.

My 2014 Angels Abroad retreat will be in July and I sense that this will be a powerful experience and a catalyst for great change for all of us. I hope you’ll consider joining me.

Full details are at the website

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Forging Forgiveness

Posted by on Dec 17, 2013

As I watch the memorial celebrations for the life of Nelson Mandela, and read the many stories about his life, I am struck again and again by the gifts of forgiveness and reconciliation that he offered everyone his life touched. I ask myself – what can we do to remember this shining example in our world?

Here is an exercise that I provide in the home study programme, Educating Heart & Soul. Many people find this very difficult and yet are always amazed at the positive outcomes it provides. I invite you to try it this weekend.

Most of us have experienced situations where we have ‘lost touch’ with someone in our lives. We used to be friends or acquaintances, perhaps even lovers, but we haven’t spoken for many months or years. This may be because of an incident that took place in which we were hurt, or it may simply be that we ‘drifted apart’.

This exercise is very simple. Write a letter or buy a beautiful card and write a short note to the person… or if you are feeling very brave pick up the telephone one day and call that person. Simply saying: ‘I know we haven’t spoken for a long time and I am not writing/calling to try to reconcile or put things back the way they used to be, but I wanted you to know that when we were friends, I enjoyed your company, respected your views and had some wonderful times. I will always remember that.’ … and if you would like to become friends again you can add ‘I’m sorry that we lost touch’ (which gives them an opening to make contact.)

Many people react to a call or letter like this in a very positive way. Often people say things like; ‘I’ve been thinking the very same thing’ ‘That’s very brave of you’ ‘It was just as much my fault and I’m so glad you called’ ‘We parted on such bad terms that I didn’t think you would ever want to speak to me again’ ‘I remember those good times too’

Even if this doesn’t immediately lead to a reconciliation, perhaps to meet up soon or talk again, you have broken the ice that was preventing either person from considering the other. And when the reaction is negative and the other person is angry or dismissive of your call, do not be upset. You have shown YOUR compassion and opened the door for a future conversation should they ever change their attitude.

Relationships are not always forever and we do sometimes have to learn to let go and cut ties. You may feel that it is not appropriate to open the channels of reconciliation as such but by sending a note in kindness and love you are offering closure and healing to wounds that may hold bitterness. Both parties, if they wish, can move on and heal.

This is an incredibly powerful exercise for healing your own doubts and fears about the past, as well as creating opportunities for forgiveness.

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